9 Questions to Solve Conflicting Thoughts or Mixed Emotions in Decision Making

  • October 29, 2018 |
  • 9:24 am |
  • Ed Nissen, MSW, LCSW

People often experience unpleasant dilemmas. Questions arise about wants versus needs, which choice is best, which is the lesser of two evils, etc. Many people seek answers to such dilemmas by looking outside of themselves. While being resourceful has its advantages, some things call us to search within for the answer, especially regarding conflicting thoughts or mixed emotions. People have systems and processes with which they find answers to their problems. Internal conflict can be a source of contention for someone trying to make important decisions. When it comes to internal conflict, people sometimes overlook simple questions they should ask themselves.

Being mindful of your emotions allows you to develop skills such as listening to what your emotions are trying to tell you. Practicing this skill affords you opportunities to ask the right questions regarding life decisions, especially those which carry emotional weight. People often want a quick answer. Although there is nothing wrong with wanting quick answers, people often fail to know when an emotional pause needs to occur to resolve the conflict. By slowing down enough to ask yourself the right questions, you can become more proficient in managing conflicting thoughts and emotions. Employing this strategy is conducive when striving to be the best version of yourself.

1. Who do I want to be?

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